Coming Out of the Spiritual Closet

Coming Out of the Spiritual Closet

Are you feeling the fear and apprehension of coming out of the spiritual closet? You’re not alone! Many individuals who grew up in religious families or experienced persecution in past lives can relate to this common issue. But fear not! In this light-hearted blog post, we’ll explore some fun and casual tips to help you navigate this exciting and sometimes nerve-wracking process. In fact, I have broken it down into just 5 EASY steps to help you feel better about your spiritual beliefs and how to be confident enough in them to start letting those around you know this is who you are. 

1. Treat Your Relationship with Spirit as a Romantic Journey

Just like a romantic relationship, your connection with spirit evolves over time. When you look at it the same way as a relationship, it can make it a bit more fun, but also, you’ll have a better understanding if you’re ready to share this new relationship with your family members or friends.   The first step here is to determine which stage you’re relationship with Spirit is in. Are you casually dating? Getting serious? If you HAD to put a stage of a relationship on your relationship with your spiritual realm, would you consider yourself married? Or just starting to fall in love?

When you figure out what stage you’re in, come out the same way you would if it were a “real” physical relationship. Example: If you are just starting off and are new, not sure where it’s headed, maybe you’d feel more comfortable keeping it to yourself until your relationship is at a more stable and secure place.  After a while, your relationship with Spirit will feel like an old married couple.

The key thing here is to embrace the depth and growth of this relationship as you spend more time nurturing it. It’s all about the journey, just like any kind of relationship. Sometimes, falling in love and getting to know one another is the most fun part.  

2. Start Small, Share with Trusted Individuals

No need for a grand announcement or coming out all at once. Begin by sharing your beliefs and experiences with trusted friends or open-minded family members.

Keep in mind where your spiritual relationship is at because just like your romantic relationships, you’ll only want to share it with those who aren’t very judgmental and who (if they need to offer advice) will do it in a loving sweet way. 

Try to go with one of those friends who will just listen instead of pushing what they think is best on you. A spiritual journey is very personal, so it’s important in the beginning stages to only share it with those you really feel close with.

3. Build a Supportive Network

Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who understand and respect your spiritual journey.

Join spiritual groups or communities, both online and offline. Most spiritual people are born into families that aren’t very spiritual. Often times, they’re seen as the black sheep of the family, are empaths amongst energy vampires and are highly misunderstood in the communities they’re thrown into. This is why it’s important for you to be around like minded people.

You can join Facebook Groups, follow spiritual peeps on Instagram who inspire you. Also attending workshops, or classes either in-person or online can bring you into communities with some of the most amazing gal pals you’ll ever meet. Always remember to keep an open mind and to know that you’re not alone, you’re not too old, and it’s never too late to find your best friends that will help you change your life into something beyond your wildest dreams! 

“In order to be successful with embracing differences, you’ll have to kick your people pleasing to the side and to learn to be unapologetically you.”

4. Embrace Differences and Focus on Your Own Growth

Understand that not everyone will accept or understand your beliefs, and that’s perfectly okay. We weren’t put on this Earth to think exactly alike! In fact, being different is what can make this human life so incredibly interesting. The truth is, YOU DON’T LIKE EVERYONE YOU MEET, do you? If you’re honest with yourself, you DON’T. Which means, sooner or later you’re going to run into people who don’t like you.  And that’s okay!  Not everyone is YOUR cup of tea, just like you aren’t going to be for everyone either. 

Your primary focus should be your personal journey and growth. If you accept others, they should accept you. If they don’t accept you – don’t take it personal and remember we weren’t all  born to think alike. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. If everyone in the world thought the same, it would be very boring and it would be difficult to learn from one another.  

In order to be successful with embracing differences, you’ll have to kick your people pleasing to the side and to learn to be unapologetically you. (Don’t worry, this will come over time). Until then, remember to seek out individuals who genuinely support and uplift you, it will help you along your journey.

5. Trust Your Intuition and Set Your Own Pace

Listen to your inner voice and follow your intuition. If you feel the urge to share your experiences or beliefs, trust that the time and place are right for you. You may notice there’s times where you want to let others know what you’re up to (studying Tarot, going to development circles, maybe?) And you could be guided to open up to tell them because they’re secretly inside the spiritual closet and don’t want to say anything either. 

Remember, it’s also okay if you don’t feel ready or comfortable yet. Your spiritual journey is unique, and you can take it at your own pace. Your spiritual journey is a journey to remembering who you truly are and why you were born into this world at this time. It can be a very personal journey that even the ones closest to you don’t understand. Honor your journey, your feelings, and where you are. Often times when on this journey, you may find yourself wishing to be further ahead like you see others, but know they had their own challenges and you may be further ahead then them in some areas.  

All and all, it’s your path you must take.  No one has to know your decisions and what path you are deciding to go down.  It’s all up to you! 

Embracing your spiritual journey and coming out of the spiritual closet can be an exciting adventure. Remember, you’re not alone in facing the fear and resistance. By treating your relationship with spirit like a romantic journey, sharing your beliefs with trusted individuals, building a supportive network, focusing on your growth, and trusting your intuition, you’ll find the courage and confidence to embrace your spirituality. So, take a deep breath, be true to yourself, and enjoy the incredible journey ahead!

If you’d like to dive into this topic more, then tune in to
The Spiritual AF Life Podcast Episode 68
Coming out of the Spiritual Closet

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